Ebony Fowler, M.ed, LCPC
Let’s talk about something real for a minute, Vulnerability. That word alone can make a lot of us tense up. Because let’s be honest, being vulnerable can feel like standing in the middle of a crowded room, completely exposed, hoping no one throws stones. But what if I told you that vulnerability isn’t a weakness? What if, instead, it’s the key to unlocking your deepest strength, healing, and personal power?
The Truth About Vulnerability
We’ve been conditioned to believe that strength means having it all together, never showing cracks, and pushing through pain in silence. But real strength? It’s found in the moments we allow ourselves to be seen, to be honest, to feel. Vulnerability is what connects us. It’s what deepens our relationships, fuels our growth, and makes healing possible.
When we let our guard down, we give ourselves permission to be human. We give ourselves space to be held, supported, and understood. And that is where the real magic happens.
The Fear of Being Seen
I see it all the time, strong, resilient Black women carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, afraid to put it down. The fear? That if they do, they’ll be judged, rejected, or even worse, let down by the people they hoped would catch them.
But sis, let me tell you something: being strong all the time is exhausting. You don’t have to do it alone. True strength is knowing when to lean in, when to ask for help, and when to open your heart, even when it feels scary.
How Vulnerability Empowers You
It deepens your relationships. When you allow yourself to be real, your connections become more meaningful. You attract people who truly see and accept you.
It strengthens your resilience. Facing your emotions head-on instead of avoiding them builds emotional muscle. You learn to navigate pain, disappointment, and fear with grace.
It frees you. Holding everything in is heavy. Releasing what you’ve been carrying brings relief, clarity, and healing.
Steps to Embrace Vulnerability
Acknowledge Your Feelings – You can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge. Give yourself permission to feel without judgment.
Speak Your Truth – Whether it’s in therapy, a journal, or with a trusted friend, practice expressing what’s real for you.
Let Yourself Be Supported – You don’t have to do it all. Allow yourself to be poured into, just as much as you pour into others.
Release Perfectionism – You don’t have to be ‘strong’ all the time. Your softness is just as powerful.
Celebrate Your Growth – Every time you choose honesty over hiding, you’re stepping into a more liberated version of yourself.
You Are Safe to Be Seen
If you’ve been feeling like you have to keep it all together, I want you to hear this: You are enough just as you are. Your feelings are valid. Your story matters. And you deserve spaces where you can show up, fully, without apology.
So take a deep breath…..let go of the armor, even if just for a moment. The power you’re searching for? It’s already inside of you And it’s waiting for you to embrace it.
And if you ever need a space to process, unpack, or just be. I’m here. No pressure, no expectations, just a safe place to lay your burdens down, whenever you’re ready.